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GuySmiley started the topic in Friday, 2 Nov 2018 at 2:04pm

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Rusty Forest Tuesday, 2 Apr 2024 at 2:00pm

The following may or may not help. In 1983 i was involved in an horrendous motor vehicle accident. to this day i do not remember independently what happened. It took 45 minutes to cut me out of the car, when i was put into the ambulance i recognised one of the ambos, as we had gone to school together. This I can remember. I was in hospital for three months after, recovering, was told all the details of what had happened, so i know. However the crux is, I do not remember any of those details independently. if I did I would assume I would feel the pain. I don't. Apart from the pain I was in through the recovery process.
So 41 years later, I still do not have any independent memory of the crash nor do I remember the things leading up to it. I believe the mind is shielding me for my own good.
Embrace that concept, and live long.

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GuySmiley Tuesday, 2 Apr 2024 at 2:04pm

G’day stu, thanks, naturally you want some of your questions answered and they may come to you in time, personally I think your lack of memory may be a good thing, a defence mechanism if you like.

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stunet Tuesday, 2 Apr 2024 at 2:05pm
Rusty Forest wrote:

I believe the mind is shielding me for my own good.

Fuck mate, in a nutshell.

Likewise, I may be too curious for my own good.

Thanks Rusty.

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andy-mac Tuesday, 2 Apr 2024 at 2:10pm
stunet wrote:
Rusty Forest wrote:

I believe the mind is shielding me for my own good.

Fuck mate, in a nutshell.

Likewise, I may be too curious for my own good.

Thanks Rusty.

Great quote.
Similar situation to me with a certain event. Cannot remember incident and glad cannot. Just remember being in hospital afterwards.
Glad you are on solid road to recovery @stu.

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Mal Caithness1 Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 11:23am

Stu, Hope I can proffer some positive mojo to help you in ur journey. At the outset,this is not a one upsmanship thing. Everyone who has to endure these type of events deals with them in their own way. In other word's, what worked for me might not work for you.
Focus on what you have & not what you don't have & surround yourself with positive people & experts in your rehab. It sounds like your journey isn't over quite yet.
Five & a half year's ago I fell 4m thru a roofing sub frame, whilst at work as a carpenter, & landed on the concrete slab below. Do remember lead up to event & the actual trip & subsequent falling episode. Felt initially like slow mo tube time then upon impact violently blacked out.
Remember only snippets then of the next coupla days. Heard stories of things I had said, & thing's I'd done. Do remember the chopper flight to Perth ICU, or one moment, when I must of come to. I wanted to remove the pressure suit I was in & was sedated then for the rest of the journey.
I had burst fractured T12 & fractured T9,C3,C4. Also turned my left collarbone into 3 piece's. Had a cerebral contusion & spent the next 24 hrs in an induced coma to relieve the swelling on my brain. Now suffer from a permanent loss of smell & taste (Anosmia) due to my olfactory nerve having died in the next 4 day's. Still suffer other classic TBI symptoms to this day.
The road to recovery has been rad. 9 month's in a Jewitt & neck brace staring at the ceiling. Got worse with bi lateral frozen shoulder, that's two shoulders gone at the same time. Took 18 m to free up. 3 surgeries on the clavicle, one surgery botched when they severed my sub clavian vein during the process. Not much fun going from orthopaedic to emergency. Was lucky another surgeon nearby canned his show & had the skill set to sort me. Other set backs,but hey you go down 7 times & get back up 8, right?
Enter the naysayers & the so called "expert's". " You'll never walk again..." "You need a 5 level spinal fusion..." " You'll never surf again..." "What'll U do with ur future, can't ever be a carpenter again? ... Saw a lot of supposed professions prospering out of my shitfuckery. They were only right on one of their calls, unfortunately for me it was the harshest.
To date, I've never surfed since. Physiology is so buckled n creased, can't paddle properly & it's impossible to now pop, prone to stance.Have managed to attend 3 paddle outs in still water, but struggle with the process. Huge fall from grace for me. My Dad told me " Mal you started surfing in 1966 & you made it to 2018, gotta be happy with that" He was right, grew up in the greatest era of surfing in this country & I grew a family & lifestyle in some of the best ocean's in the world. It culminated in where I call home today.
This is where thing's took a big turn. Knew I wouldn't be waxing my 8'1" favourite Byrne'sy & paddling the lagoon to my favourite wave on this coast. Had to somehow get the adrenaline again. I did something back to the future. I purchased a motorcycle. Went out and did 60000 KMs on an adventure bike in 18 month's. Naysayers were wtf? "You'll kill yourself on that". Lucky I had solid support crew who said "You do you ..." My wife not the least of which however even my GP praised my act stating " It show's you've got a plan to get to the other side, by the way I ride a motorcycle" You get to that place where it dawn's on you it's no longer what you don't have ...
I now track race a Kawasaki Zx6r & have done 22 trackdays in the last two year's. My daily ride is a Gen3 Suzuki GSX1350R. Have done 4 advanced riding courses to get my skillset honed. Love flipping the visor down & living for the now in my own headspace. Reckon I'll snowboard back in Japan, my spiritual home, one-day again. I do remember setting that goal in that ICU ward all that time back in 2018. To this day, alas not ticked off. Have made a comeback on the building site & manage to put the nail bag on most days. Doing thing's they said I never would. Family life has never been so solid. Nearly lost it all that day, could've been different, was close.
You're mindset is key Stu, thing's are going on ur mind that might not make sense now but you'll work it out. I get that nothing in life is like the feeling of being spat outta a triple overhead Indian Ocean Truck Wash tent. Period . TBI is real, worked out with the neurologist have had 10 unconcious episodes in my lifetime. Pay to play. Trust your body mate. My decision to refuse major back surgery, get a good like-minded physio & re hab consultant, choose the Physical Training route appears to have worked somewhat. I've still got issues, not all Unicorns & Fairies in the Garden. If I got my taste & smell back ( sucks a bag of dicks ay) , however It's confirmed as permanent, then I'd say a miracle has happened. Stick with the creed ... It's not what you don't have ... You'll be right mate, reckon you'll be back on ya bike for sure. Much mojo to you & your's.

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Supafreak Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 12:22pm

@Mal , thanks for posting your experience , all the best in future endeavours . Makes me appreciate the time I’ve had surfing and although getting on now , still able to paddle out and have a crack and do my best , aches and all .

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stunet Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 2:57pm

Hell of a post, Mal.

Thanks for taking the time to put it all down. "Your mindset is key" gets to the heart of it for me.

Once I got myself off the painkillers, my recovery was fairly easy. The things people said will happen to me, didn't, so I just cruised along, my body gradually healing itself and I started making motions back towards the surf, and even back towards the MTB bike.

Then earlier this year things went awry when Ian Porteous died. Ian crashed his bike a fortnight before me, we had similar injuries, yet where all my complications resolved themselves, Ian's got more complex.

His death shook me up, and I can't quite get back to the mindset I had during the early part of my recovery; I think about it more now than I did six months ago. Wondering what if. So many what ifs - like, every time I see my kids from a distance.

The one-track mind thing isn't my style, but it's happening, even as my body gets better and I surf again. Not sure what to do about it. Not sure it's even a problem?

Hope you get back to the land of the rising sun, Mal. That'd be something.

Cheers,

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GuySmiley Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 3:26pm
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@Mal , thanks for posting your experience , all the best in future endeavours . Makes me appreciate the time I’ve had surfing and although getting on now , still able to paddle out and have a crack and do my best , aches and all .

X2 thanks for your no holds honesty mal, all the best, I really like the way you trusted your intuition when it came to working out your medical care

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rooftop Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 4:29pm

Mal and Stu, your incredible stories and courage have compelled me to share my own story, if I may.

I used to be a tradie and had many accidents over the space of about a decade, mainly through youthful ignorance and arrogance. Had the usual attitude that it could never happen to me. I was also fairly depressed and in a state where I was not really taking responsibility for my life in many ways, and I guess that bled over into my attitudes about personal safety.

First, I put my foot through a roof tile and opened my leg from ankle to knee. Peeled open to the bone like an overripe fruit. A while later I walked into a steel rod which severely damaged one eye. I'll spare you the details. A year or two later I cut my wrist very deeply on a length of gutter, requiring another hospital visit and rehab. Finally, I fell through a loose patio roof sheet, head first onto brick pavers. I can remember realising I was falling and thinking about my poor wife having to hear the news again that I was in A&E. I have some patchy images of trying to claw my way into a chair but my arm not working properly. Then the hospital.

Luckily my offsider was there and called an ambulance. I was in for four days, and in bed for the better part of a month. Broken collarbone, broken C1, fractured skull, and bleeding on the brain. It was a couple of months till I could walk more than a kilometre, but thankfully, I was eventually able to make a full physical recovery.

Like Mal, I also had olfactory and taste distortions. For about six months, all I wanted to eat was sweet, soft things like porridge and jam. Coffee - which I love - tasted like ash. That eventually went away. I also developed a strong aversion to distractions and commotion, which has tapered off, but continued to this day. I'll wear earplugs when working, even at home, and can easily get exasperated by interruptions.

On the plus side, it was enough to finally jar me out of a line of work I hated and felt trapped in, and take more ownership of my life. It brought in to stark relief just what a fuck-up I was, but instead of feeling helpless about it I felt empowered to change. Having looked over the edge of the void, many other things were no longer that scary in comparison. I was centimetres away from non-existence; every day now is a bonus and I remind myself I don't have the time to waste it on imagined fears and vague hopes. I also developed a greater appreciation of my mortality, the fleeting nature of life, and my importance to my family, which I realised I had disrespected by being so cavalier about my own safety and wellbeing.

For a long while I had similar feelings to Stu, including a persistent fixation with death. It's never completely left me, but it ran its course, and I was finally able to make use of it. Recalling the incident now I only feel energised and reminded of the preciousness of the short time we have.

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zenagain Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 5:26pm

Great reading gents, dark, but fascinating all the same.

All the very best to you all.

Life and family are precious. Cherish them.

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velocityjohnno Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 5:58pm

Thank you rooftop, Mal, Rusty and Stu. You have the spirit that got you through. My moment was staring at the echocardiogram of my heart and seeing the valve pulse - it was so beautiful to watch at that moment I decided to live. 3 heart attacks within a month caused by rare blood disorder. When the 3rd attack happened my family was in the ICU room and I was happy that they were present and accepted fate, despite the choking feeling and the morphine rushing into my legs. I lived.

2 or 3 years of PTSD followed with multiple trips back to the hospital as I was advised to do so for any chest pain (took me a year to analyse that anxiety can cause similar feeling pains, talk about a lightbulb moment!). Each heart attack had felt completely different. An immune suppressing treatment existed for the condition and this has helped greatly. I overcame that anxiety and then covid hit. Mindfulness and Qi Gong have been extremely beneficial, although hard work at times especially initially.

Getting back into the surf after 6 months out was magic, and it was a ladder of anxiety to climb where I didn't truly trust my body and had to overcome successive sized waves.

Now I find myself busted up and I'm enjoying my time away from the surf. I think when this current injury heals, I might approach surfing from a different slant - no longer compelled to go out as often as possible and try to keep up with those 25 years my junior, no more addiction. There's a joy in it that can be felt on the exhale, and the taking stock. Not sure if I'll cruise more or go more high performance, but will build myself and body to do either. No rush for me. I wish you all well in wherever you find your limits on this path through life.

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blackers Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 6:49pm

Confronting stuff VJ. Tough on all involved. Gives a different perspective after something like that.

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zenagain Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 8:03pm

x2 from Blackers. Glad you're still with us VJ.

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I focus Wednesday, 3 Apr 2024 at 11:41pm

Just read through everyone's stories, Geezzus heavy going gents like Zen said glad everyone is still with us.

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Mal Caithness1 Thursday, 4 Apr 2024 at 10:54am

Hey Guy's,
Humble in your presence. Found that uplifting hearing all your stories & heartfelt condolences. Feel better for having written my story down and shared it with other like-minded crew also realising their own luck outcomes.
Stu, survivor guilt is a thing, a typical human response. Still suffer minor glitches from that world due a tragedy that occurred locally here over 25 years ago. I'm so no expert but eventually you realise it wasn't your time & lot & you must make a fist of your "good fortune".
Hope that makes some sense?
To the other respondents thanks for ur honest & positive responses. The slippery slope can sometimes be a Kokoda Trail. There's an inspiration to draw from that that might be helpful.
Hug your kids mate, it wasn't your destiny, day's go slow, year's go fast. Get out on the trail's & the briny & rip it up!
You'll be all good. Jus sayin'.

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Pop Down Thursday, 4 Apr 2024 at 11:02am

Hello Mal

Can I just say , You have True Grit , mate !

Many wise words .

I was humbled , by the Chatting , above !

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Mal Caithness1 Thursday, 4 Apr 2024 at 5:30pm

Hahaha,
Thanks Pop however I'm the first to acknowledge that my Halo is a lot like me nowadays... buckled & creased.I think my experiences & lessons learnt give me a unique experience in leaving a positive legacy behind. Albeit other's will beg to differ. That's cool, you do you...
Me?, lived by the no bullshit attached philosophy which ensured I always had the best Wingmen in my corner,thanks you guy's you now who you are, equally the support is reciprocal. Goes without BS attached, period. Been lucky mate, lived the life of seven men. Still kicking
Never wanted to be a role model.Never wanted to draw the same lines as other's, really liked my own way of carving albeit lacking in the company of the elites in our sport. I lived to go surfing, surfing taught me how to go living.
I'm just a product of my environment...I sometimes now wish I could still... Ain't gonna happen, I've already been gifted thru my heritage. Pop, you legend, thanks for your interest in my story.
Naysayers in our world today need to be an endangered species. Simple really.Stay Solid.

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Hello Mal

Can I just say , You have True Grit , mate !

Many wise words .

I was humbled , by the Chatting , above !

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velocityjohnno Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 5:56pm

Not sure where the correct part of the site to say this is, congrats to Craig & family I think! Let me know if a wonderful arrival is with you :)

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blackers Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 6:38pm
velocityjohnno wrote:

Not sure where the correct part of the site to say this is, congrats to Craig & family I think! Let me know if a wonderful arrival is with you :)

Perfect place VJ. Fantastic news. Congrats!

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seeds Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 6:56pm

I remember the moment x2 but the first is profound. Congratulations!

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udo Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 7:20pm
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basesix Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 7:21pm

that's unreal : ) congrats!

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AlfredWallace Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 7:27pm
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YEwwwW Congrats
https://www.instagram.com/p/C52trBay_50/?img_index=1

Congratulations to you both.

The smile on all three of your faces is priceless. AW

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andy-mac Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 7:27pm

Congratulations!!! Welcome to parenthood.

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goofyfoot Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 7:50pm

Unreal Craigos.
Let the good times roll

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tubeshooter Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 7:57pm

Yes, welcome to the world Mia.
You're in good hands. Congrats.

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seaslug Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 8:20pm

Wonderful news, big congratulations you 3

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simba Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 9:06pm

Awesome ........best show on earth ...congrats to you Craig and your lovely wife

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I focus Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 10:14pm

Big congratulations to you both well done for doing all the hard work Craig... haha life just changed for the better.

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Craig Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 10:15pm

Thanks so much guys! It's so special eh! Labour was over 40 hours, about 12 of that active, so happy everything went well in the end.

Mum should be home tomorrow and then the real fun begins ;p

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zenagain Wednesday, 17 Apr 2024 at 11:58pm

Awesome Craig. Wishing you, Ayumi and little Mia chan a life filled with love and laughter and hopefully a few waves.

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truebluebasher Thursday, 18 Apr 2024 at 2:32am

Stoked for Craig, Mum, Bub & Families & Staff / Crew of course.
Cheers again udo : Massive swellnet celebration continues...Yeww!
Cue zenagain's school band...that's him there...tooting his recorder!

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Island Bay Thursday, 18 Apr 2024 at 4:28am

A big warm congratulation to you two, Craig.

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Slackjawedyokel Thursday, 18 Apr 2024 at 8:21am

Wow. Craig you come across as a decent and fair person, and it’s nice when good things happen to good people. Congratulations. Hope everyone is happy and healthy

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GuySmiley Thursday, 18 Apr 2024 at 8:41am

Congratulations and very best wishes to all

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Pop Down Thursday, 18 Apr 2024 at 8:54am

I said Hi 2 Mia on another platform .

Great to C the new SN Nipper , creating so much excitement already .

It's a Real True Blue thingy imho !

trueblue

I think I was at that performance , of Zenagains School Band .

Such a familiar tune and got M(e)A really going , I hope .

Good work Team !

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zenagain Thursday, 18 Apr 2024 at 10:02am

You know what is trippy- we learned that very song in primary school on our recorders. Practiced for months.

Apart from being an awesome dancer, I don't have a musical bone in my body but I reckon I could still remember the above.

Cheers for the trip down Nostalgia St. TB.

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A Salty Dog Thursday, 18 Apr 2024 at 11:00am
udo wrote:

YEwwwW Congrats
https://www.instagram.com/p/C52trBay_50/?img_index=1

Congratulations Craig and Ayumi on the arrival of Mia.

May life shower you all with joy and happiness.

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seeds Thursday, 18 Apr 2024 at 6:38pm

You can look forward to this Craig.
I pranked the first born just now.
https://youtube.com/shorts/oWvHTI2Vy1Y?si=aB_3wGY5L1vvOYQI

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Andrew P Thursday, 9 May 2024 at 12:51pm

Craig shows his face!

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flollo Wednesday, 22 May 2024 at 11:37pm

It’s not news but I just feel like praising our public toilet infrastructure. Every time I leave the country I end up missing our trustworthy, free and safe toilets. Add the beach showers and kids playgrounds to the mix and life is 10 times better than elsewhere.

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zenagain Thursday, 23 May 2024 at 7:37am

+1 on that flollo.

I've missed my dunny back home though- heated seat, bum-washer, auto everything. Fark, I dread sitting down here- wakes you up real quick.

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stunet Thursday, 23 May 2024 at 12:07pm

Also don't know if this is the right place for it, but among all the algorithm-fed doomsaying we've had a handful of examples where govt of all levels have done good shit.

Back in 2016, the local govt changed our suburb's flood plan, which also changed where people could and couldn't build. As expected, much outrage from the villagers - 'government interfering in our lives' etc etc. Since then we've had three major floods, each surpassing the last, and the waterways behaved as per the 2016 models.

Most recent flood was April 6th this year and in the immediate aftermath the local council arranged for any waste to be collected. For a few days the suburb looked like Lismore with sodden rubbish - furniture and beds and whatnot - piled high on the streets, yet it was all gone within a few days.

Local council also organised free counselling sessions, clean up sessions, and future planning sessions, while the state government set up a hotline to fast track relief payments. They also set up stalls in Crown Street Mall to give the same advice in person not waiting on a phone line.

None of this is 'expected', governments wouldn't be criticised for not doing it, but it was done anyway.

Unfortunately, writing something like this doesn't provide the same fibrillating charge as an angry rant. Hopefully the govts don't keep it up.

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Optimist Thursday, 23 May 2024 at 5:05pm

We do pretty well don’t we….love Australia….love our society…..let’s forget war and house everyone instead….. All Govts local and federal all sides together fast track the matter like it’s war… but war on homelessness….